Fear & Phobia

I think people who want to be married are brave people. It is not easy to commit to just one person for the rest of your life. Love alone wont be enough to ensure happiness in marriage. Or just beauty. There are always other factors.

Being loyal is an ultimate thing. No cheating. So does trust. With that comes honesty. And sharing secrets. Or gossips. Understanding. Tolerating. Prioritizing. Always be satisfied with each other or pretend to be satisfied. Can you choose the right person? Would she/he be enough?

In Malaysian context, traditionally (or maybe just within my family), despite gender equity or gender whatever being campaigned and whatnot, stuff like gender stereotype still happen in our household. I mean, my dad would never force my mom to cook whenever he's hungry but I never seen him in the kitchen cooking for us either (maybe once in all my life). Stuff like that is known to suppose happen. Like my mom is the one who chooses the furniture or the curtains. My dad would worry about the bills and repair the bulbs.

Women in my family are expected to know how to cook. How to take care of a child. How to please husband. How to love husband family unconditionally. How to sew. How to manage money. How to do work simultaneously like hold a baby and sweep the floor. Basically, superwomen.

Marriage is a tough thing. Only tough people last.

I hope one day I'll be brave enough and I'll be married to a nice guy who loves me unconditionally.