Show me some love

What do you think about people who give others a present that was given to them by someone else? Is it appropriate? I mean, the gift was meant for you and yet you have the heart to give the present to someone else. Sounds confusing. For example, for Milah’s birthday, Ali gave her a Prada bag. Milah gave this exact bag to her friend, Suzi on Suzi’s birthday. Ahh, recycled gift is the term.

Maybe the person has put deep thought into that gift (time and money wise) and you, the receiver, don’t like it. Maybe the present suits the other person more. Maybe the present is not really ‘you’. Or simply, you have gazillion of the items already. That does not mean the gift is transferable.

I understand it is your right to do whatever you want with your gift. It is yours after all. It was already given to you. You can simply throw it away if you don’t like it. Or maybe that is better. Throw it away. Not in front of the giver of course. Rather than secretly not liking it and giving it to others and get caught.

I know the phrase ‘it’s the thought that counts’. Does it mean that it does not matter where the gift comes from? Whether it was stolen or taken by force? Whether the gift was actually meant for someone else?

I betcha the new receiver of the recycled gift also will not be entirely pleased. It is a second hand item after all. The gift might represent the worse in you since it might convey that you don’t respect the giver of the item or the new receiver.

I truly understand that your intention might be nice. You don’t wanna waste a gift that you might not use yourself. So, you give it to someone else.

Don’t try to rationalize your action. Just don’t.

It hurts.

However, I would draw a line if the gift is wrong in size. I mean what would I do with a size 'S' baby tee? That shows the giver does not really thought about the present hence it can be given to someone else.

* A gift is something given voluntarily without payment in return, as to show favor toward someone, honor an occasion, or make a gesture of assistance; present. I am not talking about the kinda present you got if you won something, that one you earned it so you can do whatever you want with it.

p/s: received a great pressie today. Thanks HR.